The Phoenix Frequencies
Phoenix rises: It isn't the ash that IS your life; it is the rising from the ash that makes life fertile.
In this podcast, I share how I relearned to live based on the present.
Frequently I give short episodes with food for thought.
Or I interview another phoenix who faced obstacles and moved beyond them. The real thing: because we get more from what and how we learn, than the pretended positivity.
As a HeartBraincoach and HeartAmbassador, I love to explore with curiosity the unexpected perspectives in redesigning your life as a phoenix.
If you want to know more about me: www.nienkevanbezooijen.com
Courage to move on from the past,
Trust to be with the present,
Rise to create a new future
I love questions from my audience that I can use as a topic.
heartbraincoachnienke @gmail.com
The Phoenix Frequencies
Episode 3 Listening is holding space to rise
What is the secret of a good listener? They can hold space:
"In the process of rising from the ashes, holding space is the stillness between the fire and the flight. It is the quiet, steady frequency that allows the 'redesign' of a life to take place in a safe and honest environment."
Here is a checklist for you, "Holding Space to Rise".
It includes the 7 key steps for clearing your own mental noise, listening for the speaker's "spark," and using silence to help others find the frequency to rise from the ashes.
1. Empty the Vessel: Take a 'breath of transition' to clear your own mental noise and biases before the conversation begins.
2. Set the Frequency: Intentionally decide to provide a non-judgmental, safe container for the speaker's true self to emerge. Listen from neutrality.
3. Honour the Ashes: Practice radical honesty by validating the weight of their struggle without rushing into 'fake positivity' or advice.
4. Listen for the Spark: Ignore the 'static' of the story and focus on shifts in energy, tone, and check if it's safe for them to rise or not yet.
5. Utilise Sacred Silence: After the speaker finishes a thought, wait: allow seconds to be silent. Allow the insight to land in the space for both of you.
6. Reflect the True Self: Mirror back the strengths or realisations you hear emerging, rather than enforcing the problems being described: non-judgmental, without the focus on yourself.
7. Check the Heart-Brain Connection: Notice if the speaker (or you) is stuck in the head (logic) and gently ask questions, reflections to include the heart (feeling).
Are you listening?
Or as Manu Keirse describes it—if you think you’ve listened: listen again
We are all responsible for how we show up in the world, to others, ánd to ourselves. With Phoenix Frequencies, Nienke van Bezooijen shines her light on what we can do to be the best versions of ourselves based on how we show up and what we are willing to learn. It isn't about showing the way with pretended positivity, it is the heart-based vulnerability-sharing options. It takes courage to rise. See what is for you. Or share with others. Perfect doesn't exist; curiosity can be the stepping stone to broaden your perspectives.
Courage to move on from the past,
Trust to be with the present,
Rise to create a new future.
If you want to be interviewed as a phoenix, write to heartbraincoachnienke @gmail.com
